Help! When Will My Ex Get Over Our Past - We Have a Son!?

He will probably never get over the past but you need to leave him behind and move on if not for your sake, for the sake of your child. Remember that if you were still with him he would be a role model for your son, who would grow up to treat any future girl friend or spouse the way this guy is treating you. You need to file for support for your child and then he can decide if he wants visitation or not but you need to be very careful with the visitation to make sure he does not decide to take the boy back to the philipines in order to punish you so make sure that it is supervised visitation. Also, make the child supprt paid through the Friend of the Court because even though it costs a bit, they can make sure that he pays that in ways that you can not. You do need to take it very slow getting into this new relationship to make sure it is not just a rebound from the father and that it is a good relationship over a period of time.